I feel the easiest way to handle life’s ‘challenging’ moments is to have created your own defense for when they show up. I‘ve found there are two general areas where my ‘challenges’ appear. Either I’m bothered by someone or something. Here are the different concepts I’ve used to build the stories I use when these two different situations arise:
Someone is bothering me:
They have to be who they are and if I were them I’d be doing the same thing.
They have to be doing what they’re doing—it’s really not about me.
They have no choice because they’re not trying to control their energy, they’re just being a robot to their mix.
I am just throwing gas on the fire if I try to point out any of this. Pointing out to people they’re messed up is usually an awfully bad tactic! Especially when they’re losing it!
Once I quit taking it personally I’ll be able to accept their behavior even though I might still not like it.
I’ll use some excuse to remove myself if I can’t get back in control.
Their behavior is all about what their mix is producing, and my behavior is all about what my mix is producing—don’t forget this!
I don’t have to stay bothered
They’re giving me the great opportunity to practice how to feel wonderful in a war zone.
Something is bothering me:
When it comes to completing a task that I dread or intimidates me I know I first need to remove whatever uncomfortable feeling I have running through me.
When I feel bad I can’t possibly be the best I can be.
I need to see clearly the ‘bad’ has to go and then do my reps until it is gone
Taking a deep breath and getting comfortable is the first step.
If I can’t really give it my good energy I stop immediately. What sense does it make for me to do something that makes my energy go bad? How could that be the thing to do? If I really want to get it done in an easy and fun way, all I need to do is find the support I need to make it easy and fun.
This can be a little scary letting your energy be primary, but if you follow its lead, you’ll see how much more efficient you become.